Considering the fact that they made a movie and sales have been through the roof for a long time, books like "He's Just Not That Into You" and "The Rules" are sure to be among that which some of you have consulted at one time or another. Don't be embarrassed. You are not alone.
We all have trouble navigating the murky waters of romantic relationships. We all think we are succeeding only to find we have failed miserably. Sometimes we wake up soon enough to repair the damage and salvage that which we love. (A Freudian slip? No, I think we often love the relationship, or the idea of it, more than the person with whom we are having it.) Other times, we trample it to a bloody, messy pulp before we have the first clue it's in jeopardy.
We spend millions on couples and individual counseling to figure out why we are still so lonely. We pour booze down our throats in hopes of soothing the raging heartache that follows a break-up, or even just a fight. Bartenders around the world hear all the things about your life they never wanted to know without the compensation you give your therapist.
My point? We are constantly seeking advice or someone to listen to our woes and give us some sort of consoling words of wisdom. I'm not sure, after centuries of this practice, that it's gotten us anywhere useful. I believe we have become so accustomed to talking about our relationships that we aren't actually doing anything productive in them.
I want to hear from you all. Give me the best, worst, and most absurdly hilarious relationship advice you've received. It can be professional advice you followed that turned out to be bad, or that you happily chose to ignore. It can be the stuff handed down from grandparents, neighbors, or church members. It can be the blatherings of a well-meaning friend or co-worker. No need for attributions here, just the "words of wisdom" will be fine.
My hope is that somewhere in the muck and mire we might find something that really does work! So, fire away!
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